The Wright Way

The Wright Way

Sunday, August 27, 2017

Ability and Capability

Toying with Linguistics 

All languages are full of their own little linguistic “tricks” and ambiguities. English is no exception.

We ALL have abilities. They are innate, in our nature, and we are born with them – albeit in a very raw state. We then grow our abilities – starting with how we move and manipulate our bodies, and how we communicate.

Then – at some point in our youth – we begin to CAP most of our abilities. We CAP, or limit our abilities through believing we are just plain ordinary.

Some people break out of that illusion and AMAZE us. We MARVEL at their abilities, their dedication, and their sacrifices.
But WE could never be like that – because even though we were born uniquely extraordinary and believed in that truth for a while, the “Grown Up” World (and how it works) conspired to repeatedly tell us all about the things that we CAN’T do, not what we CAN.

Sadly, most of us, before we have even reached the age of 10, have already garnered enough CAPS, enough limitations on our abilities, to last us for the rest of our lives. Equally sadly, most of us hold onto the beliefs about what we are and are not capable of – and live out our lives accordingly.

However there is another world, of infinite possibilities, away from the critical and disparaging glass-ceilinged world we have come to believe.

Maverick Coach World

The World of the Maverick Coach says, “HOLD ON!”
“There is cap, NO ceiling on your possibilities and abilities. In Maverick Coach world there is only the matter of HOW and WHEN.”

And that Maverick Coach worldview goes on,
“I believe in you, but you have to believe in yourself. I can point you there, but you have to have the curiosity and passion to get there.”

Inside us all, at a rather deep level, is our own maverick "Inner Coach". When we were very young this innate characteristic drove our sense of awe, our sense of wonder and our sense of curiosity. Every day was an adventure and we set out to discover. However, some of our discovery involved encounters with the "couldn't", "don't", "wouldn't", "can't", "shouldn't", "won't" and "doesn't" nature of reality. 

And it was within these encounters that we lost some of our innate curiosity - and we lost touch with our Inner Coach

Yet here's the thing ... 
We haven't really lost anything. Our Inner Coach is still there. It's just that we've lost touch.
When our battery is flat or we've got no signal it doesn't mean that IS IT, gone forever, set in stone, yadayada ... 
It just means recharge your device - go where the reception is better - change your provider!

And if your provider, your current world view, is Capping your Abilities, then take some self-directed action! It IS, entirely, up to you!

Tuesday, August 22, 2017

Retreats & Walks

Amidst the hurly-burly of life, we can often become detached whether from our inner selves, from a clear perspective, or from our sense of wellbeing. In these times, we can feel overwhelmed by circumstances or our environment, and what we need is to slow down our thinking, bring more clear light in our lives, get out of our heads and back in touch with nature in a complete change of surroundings.

My walking retreats can give you an excellent opportunity for some guided “me” time. Along the coastline where I live in North Devon there are some of the finest walks in the country – and these provide an excellent
backdrop for some mental and physical renewal.

Usually incorporating stretches of the South West Coast Path, the walks, whether via some steep and hilly challenges or along stretches of beautiful sandy beaches – are always with the sounds of the seas and breaking waves close by, and the invigorating clear, clean air coming straight off the Atlantic Ocean. You can walk and talk, or mindfully reflect, whilst communicating with the awesome power of nature.

Like me, many people have experienced amazing shifts in their perspectives and, for some, it can be life-changing, as the mind settles down and we begin to notice our own wisdom and insights once more. The stage is set for us to get clear on those answers to important questions, problems, issues in our lives that have eluded us - back in the daily pressure-cooker of our “real” world.

Normally set over a weekend, the retreats involve either a one or two-night stay in accommodation of your own choice – with guided walks taking place on Saturdays and Sundays.
During our time spent together there is ample opportunity to talk over areas where you might be looking for more clarity and understanding, and at our meet-ups at the start of each day, I will talk about how our relationship with our thinking can frame every decision and every action we choose to take in our lives. 

This helps prepare the ground, sets up the blank canvas, for our collective walking experience and how we can, through directing our focus and attention, all use that experience to our advantage.
Each day, en route, we break for lunch, and on Saturday evening we all have dinner together at a suitably appropriate establishment near the “finishing line” of whichever route we have taken that day.

Perhaps you are feeling that such a complete change of environment and activity is the kind of thing that could bring about some transformation in your life, or maybe you are just looking for a short disengagement from the daily stresses and pressures and to get away from it all – either way, it would be great to be your guide and enable you to bring that to fruition!

Please do get in touch if you are interested in coming to any of the retreats. Also – if these dates are not convenient yet you would like to make a special visit to my part of the world at any other time, for one of my other one-to-one programmes then please do enquire!

For all details of the Retreat dates for the current season then check out the EVENTS page at my website …  TheWrightWayLtd

Thursday, July 13, 2017

Touching Lives

What is revealed when catching up with paper work

Today I was doing the admin for my cricket work time in schools this calendar year so far. The total exceeds 100 hours. Add to those hours some District Level coaching, plus voluntary hours at the Colts Section of my own Club and also at another Club in my home town where we are building the Colts Section; and then add in all the background stuff ... the meetings, the planning, the organising ... that would then probably double the 100 hours figure. 

In terms of my working life - and this year in particular - this a lot of hours. It is a quantifiable measure of the time I have spent in working at educating, building and improving upon the technical abilities of a considerable number of young people - albeit in one small part of their lives.

Influence below the Surface 

Of course in all technical coaching there is also a relationship in terms of rapport between players and coach. And within that rapport there is influence at play, an influence that falls into the area of mental and performance coaching. For me this influence translates into linguistic, somatic and temperament areas - and is going on ALL the time. Certain words, a chuckle or a smile, here and there are hugely important in the relationship and, particularly with coaching a group. 

I am often seen as being very patient, easy going and, to put it bluntly, a bit of a pushover in terms of my strictly managing the unacceptable. Yet this is far from the truth, and I don't allow my laissez-faire attitude to over-ride my values for I really do want my players to be influenced by my values. On one day this week, for example, I had (i) to both call a player out, and then report him, for bullying and later (ii) I had to reveal to a squad of under 11 players, in no uncertain terms, what was and was not acceptable TO ME in terms of their engagement with our practice game. 

In spite of these rare occasions, I'm delighted that my players reflect back their acceptance of my influences - mainly because I know that somewhere in the confines of their minds they have taken on the need to be grounded, and to not take themselves too seriously.
That ALWAYS seems to work best!


Yet because everything we do as coaches makes a difference, the next step is about going the extra mile. And so 5-10 minutes helping a little girl with her catching, at the end of her brother's All Stars Cricket session this evening is an essential component in making that difference a positive and worthwhile one. Of course receiving genuine and grateful thanks from her Mum makes all the difference to me too! When the extra miles are noticed it reminds me that being generous with our time is also very valuable at human level. 

And when we add up our EXTRA miles in a year for instance, they can actually be much more valuable than our "200+ hours". 

Never under-estimate the impact of YOUR extra miles!

True Vermin

After some therapy earlier this morning I took time out to "walk round the block" where I'm fortunate to live. It took about twenty  minutes, and one of my first observations was the seagulls in flight over the water.

They are much maligned birds in our coastal community because of their voracious appetites and fearless relationship with man. In our environment they revel in OUR voracious appetites by sifting through OUR waste, particularly food waste. They even dare to steal our food out of our hands - before it has become waste. We say they are "vermin."

Yet today I watched them in THEIR environment - over the waves, through the sea air, round rocky ledges. Wheeling, soaring, occasionally beating their wings yet mostly gliding using currents and thermals, they moved effortlessly and with grace - in their world. It was poetry in motion.

So, although their bellies may have been full of OUR waste - perhaps the leavings of  "Chicken a la Dust Carte" - they still only ate enough for their immediate needs. Their soaring flight patterns were not weighed down by excess gluttony, and when they landed on the azure blue of the inshore waters they did not sink.

No - they are still the masters of their own environment and adaptable masters of the interface where theirs and ours meet, here on the coast.

Plus - I'd venture to point out that in global terms, the true vermin is not the common gull but the common man; i.e. ourselves! The more we respect our environment the better it is for everything that lives - and that includes the environment. Is it HARD?

“Is it hard?'
Not if you have the right attitudes. Its having the right attitudes that's hard.” ~  Robert M Pirsig,
"Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance - An enquiry into values"